Doing Nothing

What do you feel when there is nothing to do?

People commonly report feeling:

• Anxiety

• Restlessness

• Confusion

• Boredom

I notice for myself that when there is nothing to do or when I take time to do nothing, I sometimes feel guilty or even shameful. Like somehow I am being irresponsible by slowing down and stopping. Wait. What?

The environments we live in are relentlessly stimulating. As you are reading this you may be also thinking of the myriad other things you have on your mind. If you have consumed any news during the last week you are undoubtedly aware of the unfolding of recent violence. This can create a desperate sense of urgency. You might be thinking, “I have to do something!” Or perhaps like me you might feel like you are always rushing about trying to be just ahead of where your body actually is. This is terribly dis-regulating and very stressful on our nervous systems. It leads to confusion, sleep difficulties, poor immunity, and many other widely known diseases (dis-ease).

The remedy?

Slow down. Stop. Do nothing. Relax.

There is a phrase in the Spanish language: “Que bueno es no hacer nada y luego descansar!” This means “How good it is to do nothing and then rest afterwards”.

Here is a short practice you can cultivate for yourself. I recommend doing this every so often when you notice that you’re racing. Take 20 minutes and find a place that is comfortable. Outside is good but it is better that you can really settle down for a time. Allow space for your feelings and thoughts to arise and pass through. Don’t attach meaning to them. Remember, this is a practice so if you find yourself doing (including thinking) just lovingly bring yourself back to being present. Make this time intentionally about not doing. This isn’t a time to meditate or listen to soft music or journal. Those are all doing. Just be.

If this is a challenge or you would like to explore it in a more guided setting, I recommend attending a Forest Bathing experience with me (see below) or we can arrange for a 1:1 session.